I received the following letter today from a young mom who shared about her struggle with resuming intimacy after her babies were born. She’s agreed to share her heart-felt personal story with us, in order to help other women understand that God’s gift of essential oils can be a great blessing to us both physically and emotionally…

This is a little sensitive, but I wanted to share with you how God used essential oils to bless my marriage. Samuel and I have been married for nearly 9 years and have four sweet little daughters. The problem I’ve been having started after I had my daughter, Sarah, who is 5 ½ years old.

You know how after you have a baby it can be a bit frustrating getting back into the “swing of things” with regards to intimacy with your husband? Well, after I had my Emily a year ago, and was given the “green light” to once again be intimate with my husband, I had the worst anxiety about it all.

Emily was my first baby to be born at home and the first baby that I actually shared a bed with. For the first few days after she was born, she slept in the bed right next to me and Samuel slept on the couch. This was in an effort to halt our little ones from coming into the bedroom at night and waking me or the baby up.

Sadly, this became the norm in our house for 9 months!  Samuel and I were intimate around that 6 week postpartum mark, but I was in so much physical discomfort, and my mind was so focused on Emily, that it was just disastrous. For months I just didn’t want to be touched.

Nursing Emily around the clock – three other children requiring so much of me emotionally and physically…by the time Samuel got home I was just on sensory overload and could not stand to be touched by another human being!  It was truly a low point for me, and I assume for my husband.

As time went on, we attempted intimacy two more times – both times were absolutely painful for me. My entire body was tense the entire time and I began to become bitter and resentful, as I felt like I was being forced to have sex.  It seems so silly now, but during that time the only advice I was receiving was “you are required to have sex with your husband regardless – so do it and be quiet.” At least that’s how I perceived the advice.

A couple of months ago when I signed up under you with YL, I began to talk to a good friend about what was plaguing me and she was so gentle and kind in her wise counsel. Eventually, I made another attempt at being intimate with my husband only to break down in tears.

My poor husband had no clue that I was struggling so much.  In fact, he thought that my issues had to do with me feeling like he didn’t find me desirable anymore. We had a long talk and he reassured me that he loved me, that there was no rush, and that he felt genuinely heartbroken that he had caused me any pain.

That night was the beginning of healing for me, both physically and emotionally. Flash forward to recent weeks when things began to get better, though I was still experiencing some physical pain and light bleeding after being intimate.

I ordered the Ylang Ylang in order to get the Valentine special (the free Lavender), not really knowing what to do with the Ylang Ylang. Well, I found a use! I read in the Essential Oil Pocket Reference you sent me that it is good for sexual intimacy, so last night I put it on my shoulders, neck and abdomen.  Outcome: Glorious!  I don’t know how else to describe it.

Yesterday was Samuel’s 34th birthday, and I so wanted to do something special for him. Well, using the Ylang Ylang worked miracles for me last night. No pain and no bleeding, and I wasn’t the least bit tense. Also, I was able to totally focus on my husband and enjoy him.

Generally, my mind wanders to when Emily is going to wake up to be nursed, or what if one of the other girls wakes up, or the kitchen isn’t clean, or any number of other distracting thoughts!

I had taken many steps in an effort to remedy the problems I was having. I moved Emily out of our room and into the room with her sisters. I tried making our bedroom as calming and relaxing as possible. But, while those were definitely great steps in the right direction, the Ylang Ylang, in my opinion, perfected the process.

I just had to share this with you because if it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t have known about all of the different oils, nor would I have had the reference book to refer to. I just wanted you to know how much this precious oil has blessed me!

The names and identifying information in this story have been changed to protect the privacy of the those involved.

Categories: Essential Oil Tips, Product Information
Tags: intimacy, Ylang Ylang