Frequently Asked Questions
What is meant by the term courtship and betrothal? Is it really any different than dating?
James and I have updated our personal statement regarding our family’s stand on courtship and betrothal. We hope you understand that while we believe that the way we define courtship and betrothal is based on Scripture, and a good way for unmarried couples to honor and enter marriage in purity, it is not the only way it can be properly worked out. Therefore, we humbly submit to you our thoughts, asking that you compare all we say to Scripture, remembering that there are no formulas. Read more HERE
Are you trying to present a “perfect family” paradigm that is impossible to achieve?
It’s true; some days seem overwhelming. There are times when child rearing is just plain old “hard work.” Try as we might, our houses never stay perfectly clean, and each of our children is disobedient at least once every day. We could throw up our hands on those difficult mornings and claim for ourselves a day of defeat and failure, but God has a higher calling for us and sanctifies us through the day-to-day challenges.
We’re not to serve God by pretending life is easy for us or that we have it all down perfectly, because it’s not and we don’t. The world needs an honest depiction of real down-to-earth people living out real life to the glory of God. Unbelievers will see God in us when we demonstrate contentment wherever He has us, when they see the peace He gives us in trials, and when we give rather than take. Read more HERE
In your book, Passionate Housewives, what did you and Jennie mean by the term Whitewashed Feminism?
Thank you for asking. Since writing Passionate Housewives Desperate for God a few years ago, Jennie and I have been amazed by how this term has spread. Whether or not that’s a good thing is still in question. But, for what it’s worth, here is where it started:
The term “whitewashed” means to gloss over or cover up something. So, “whitewashed feminism” is a term that reflects feminism that is hidden or deceptive in nature. Since I believe that feminism is an unbiblical ideology, it makes sense that I said this:
“It is possible to be a Christian feminist, but ironically there is no such thing as “Christian Feminism.” The Christian feminist is either herself deceived, or she is attempting to deceive us” (2 Peter 2:1-3)…
This word was not meant to be something we would “call” anyone; it was a word used in a book to make a point. I also used it on my blog during the time I was writing the chapter about feminism; but, I’ve never referred to anyone as a “whitewashed feminist.” Once the word was “out there” others reacted by multiplying and misrepresenting its usage, whether or not that was intentional. Read the rest of the answer HERE
I understand that Titus 2 instructs older women to teach younger women to manage their homes well; but, is Paul saying in Titus 2:5 that working women “blaspheme God?”
First, let me say no; from what I’ve studied in the word of God, a woman who works outside of the home does not blaspheme God’s Word by doing so. But let’s look a little closer at what Paul does mean. Read the entire answer HERE