July 27, 2017

What I Learned During the Modesty Wars: A Response to “Modest is Hottest”

Woman walking on a field collecting herbs to the basket.

You know, I’ve actually grown to avoid the topic of modesty. I don’t care to write or talk about it anymore. At. All. Seriously. Mostly because it seems to have become a “thing” over the years, and it often sparks a lot of energy-draining debate, contention, and misunderstanding. It’s certainly not a fun or popular topic – and I’m tired.

I’ve wanted not …

September 6, 2013

A Young Woman’s Prayer of Chastity


Admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste… that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:4–6)

Does God not see my ways and count all my steps (Job 31:1,4)? I have made a covenant with my body to be discreet and chaste; why then should I flaunt myself?

Has He not said that “marriage is honorable among all” (Hebrews 13:4) and that …

September 6, 2013

Living out Biblical Principles: A Young Man’s Prayer of Chastity


Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded… (Titus 2:6) Abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter… (1 Thessalonians 4:3–6)

“I have made a covenant with my eyes; why then should I …

July 18, 2013

The New Barely There Modesty


Update: It has been brought to my attention that the pastor described in this article is actually now a “former pastor.” Please note this correction.

There seems to be this weird new drift in the concept of Christian modesty. Perhaps it’s just a non-theology reaction to truly poor theology; but, whatever it is, it’s growing…especially in the “relevant” crowd. In other words, the people who seem to support this new “barely there …

March 20, 2013

Are Beauty Pageants “Beautiful?”

Have you ever considered what the real difference is between stripping off your dignity to stand on a runway or stage (often half-dressed) while strangers evaluate your body—strangers who are given the right to decide whether or not you’re “good enough” and standing on an auction block while slave traders do the same thing?

Both situations are humiliating, degrading, and ultimately shameful—both are done for the base pleasure or benefit of others, but somehow …

July 14, 2012

No Shades of Grey: A Black and White Seduction of the Mind

beddreamstimeSexual sin hurts. It mangles and poisons. It attacks the potential beauty and closeness of one of God’s most mysterious gifts: The one flesh relationship of sexual intimacy. In addition to defrauding our neighbor, when we engage in fornication or adultery we are in a real way self-destructing (Rom. 1:24-27).

While most Christians understand the health risks of extra-marital sex, and many will even acknowledge the emotional and spiritual damage such relationships have …

July 14, 2012

It’s Really Black and White

Pain, dominance, humiliation, and bondage presented as pleasure? Fornication packaged in paperback for women lacking discretion? Warning: Sin lurks in the heart. Seems pretty black and white to me. No shades of grey. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, be glad. If you do know, consider…  Matt. 5:28, Ephesians 5:12, Phil. 4:8, 2 Tim. 3:6, Heb. 13:4, Rom. 6:12, 1 Cor. 6:18, Col. 3:5,  and the list goes on.


July 7, 2012

Training a Modest Heart: A Note to Parents on the Modesty of their Daughters

Technically, just as an inanimate object can be neither sinful nor virtuous, it’s impossible for an article of clothing to be modest or immodest. Both sin and modesty reside in the heart of man, not on a shelf or a clothing rack. However, since whatever is on the inside eventually shows up on the outside, our choices communicate something; and, good or bad, they affect others.

A modest Christian woman is …

June 4, 2012

Worldliness: Don’t Walk as the Gentiles…

You should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have …

May 19, 2012

Teaching the Younger Women in Your Life…

Admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:4–5)

In Titus 2, we older women are instructed to teach the younger women the following seven things (over the next few weeks, each of the following topics will turn into live links). The job isn’t given to men; …