August 5, 2013


One who is consumed by the delusion of perpetual victimhood is engaged in one of the most bitter and prolific sins I have ever witnessed. It is a vicious, blinding, self-consuming, inexhaustible, and cancerous sin. It keeps its prey bound, paranoid, miserable…and dangerous. Narcissism is a cruel master; it compels its slaves to count as enemies those who love them, and ironically to attack those who speak the truth to …

August 12, 2011

Domestic Tyrants

I was contemplating recently why I don’t care for the term “abuser.” It’s certainly an accurate description at times. I wondered if perhaps it was the overuse of the word that bothered me; and I think that is definitely part of it. However, I think I mostly flinch at the word because we are all abusers – every time we sin against someone we are “abusing” them. People are not put on this …

June 26, 2011

Persecution from…Christians?

I Thank Thee Sire But Thou art making me, I thank Thee, sire.
What Thou hast done and doest Thou know’st well.
And I will help Thee; gently in Thy fire
I will lie burning; on Thy potter’s wheel
I will whirl patient, though my brain should reel.
Thy grace shall be enough the grief to quell,
And growing strength perfect through weakness dire.


Wow! How many …

June 24, 2011

A Right Focus…

The following paragraphs came from part of a response I received from a woman who took issue with my critique of a particular book, a book I’d prefer not to publicize by mentioning its name (as you know, bad press is better than no press). I believe this book tears down and divides the Body of Christ. Not only that, but, it places an additional burden on true victims of …

November 18, 2010

What is Abuse?

According to Webster’s 1828 Dictionary, the word abuse is defined as “ill use; maltreatment; misuse with bad motives or to wrong purposes.” It goes on to describe an abuser as “a ravisher or a sodomite.” Basically, to abuse is to use to the extreme something or someone (including ourselves) improperly, and to a bad end. To abuse is to “use wrongly.”

However, sometimes, when people use the word abuse, they …