November 11, 2012 by Stacy McDonald

The Dance of Marriage

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Donald O’Connor once shared that one of his favorite dance performances was the one he performed with Vera Ellen, in the movie, Call Me Madame. He said of Miss Ellen:

“When we danced together the great thing about her was that she didn’t try to upstage you. Women dancers sometimes try to lead. We worked together and every movement we did meant something.”

Just as an elegant waltz requires someone to skillfully lead the steps, so does the well-choreographed dance of marriage require a husband to lovingly lead his wife. He doesn’t stomp on her toes; instead, with strength and purpose, and an ear for the great Musician, he leads the dance.

Men and women each have their unique roles and duties in marriage, which are equally important and essential to the ministry of the family. If the dance is going to be a success—if it’s going to flow without a lot of stumbling, someone is going to have to lead; and, for that to really mean something, someone else is going to have to follow.



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3 Responses to “The Dance of Marriage”

  1. Jennifer says:

    I don’t think there’s much problem with a woman leading a DANCE; his comment irritates me a little.

    As for marriage, though, someone on another Christian site said that after a while, if it’s done well enough, in marriage and dancing, the two move in such harmony you can’t tell who’s leading.

  2. Stacy McDonald says:

    “if it’s done well enough, in marriage and dancing, the two move in such harmony you can’t tell who’s leading.”

    I would agree with this. However, before you can get to that point, the couple has to become so used to leading/following in that Christian spirit of give/give that they just know and trust each other so well, it all flows easily.

  3. Amanda E says:

    Stacy, Thank you for your lovely post. What a gentle reminder of the God ordained – biblical order and of the blessing that follows that obedience. This blessed me greatly! Simply beautiful.

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