May 19, 2012 by Stacy McDonald
Admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:4–5)
In Titus 2, we older women are instructed to teach the younger women the following seven things (over the next few weeks, each of the following topics will turn into live links). The job isn’t given to men; it’s given to us. Are you shaking and trembling? Me too!
- To love their husbands
- To love their children
- To be discreet
- To be chaste
- To be homemakers
- To be good
- To be obedient to their own husbands
So, why don’t we see much of this teaching happening in the church today? Why are so many young women floundering? Even ladies’ Bible studies often avoid many of these topics. Could it be that our modern culture has either rejected many of these virtues, or at least minimized them; and, because of that, even Christian women have been indoctrinated and impacted by worldly thinking?
It’s probably not an accident that out of all the things listed in the Titus 2 chart below, the topics given to the young women are the least embraced and the most attacked in our feministic culture. No wonder our young women are struggling!
To Older Women:
Still, we older Christian women are supposed to know better. We have Bibles, after all; and we’ve lived long enough to have a few things to share. Why aren’t we teaching the young women these things?
Is it because so many young women aren’t teachable; therefore, we older women are afraid? It could be. I know for me, I’d much prefer to laugh and enjoy the young women in my life (including my daughters) without the uncomfortable burden of “confronting” anything. Especially when such efforts are often less than welcomed, and sometimes backfire on us! It’s not fun being the bad guy, is it? But, remember Proverbs 27:6!
Or could it also be that we older women are not always living out the very things we are supposed to be teaching? In a culture that worships youth and physical perfection, many older women, forgetting Proverbs 31:30, reject their “older woman” status and cling instead to an over ripe youth – spoiling the fruitful beauty of the “hoary head” (Prov. 16:31) and offering young women only confusion and disillusionment (1 John 2:15-17).
And some older women have bought into the lie of feminism and openly reject the gift of marriage and children. I recently overheard an older woman telling a friend, “I encourage young women to do themselves a favor and wait until they’re in their 40’s to have children; because then maybe they’ll be too old.” At that point, both women burst into laughter.
Hopefully, most Christian women aren’t quite this callous to the idea of children and family; however, since the advent of easily accessible birth control and abortion, there has certainly been a distinct decline in the way our culture, and even the church, views having children (especially more than 1 or 2).
We older women should also remember the admonition Paul gave to us: to be reverent, not slanderers, not given to much wine, and teachers of good things. Obviously, we should already have a track record for living out those “good things” that we’re supposed to be teaching the younger women. But, we are still supposed to be actively teaching them. It’s not optional.
“The nations shall know that I am the Lord,” says the Lord God, “when I am hallowed in you before their eyes. Ezekiel 36:23
To Younger Women:
Young woman, are you teachable? Are you seeking out godly older women and learning at their feet? Are you willing to listen when they speak into your life? Or do you become angry, irritated, defensive, or perhaps amused by what you consider to be “outdated” teachings? Do you have what the Bible calls a “stiff neck?” Young women, learn wisdom and “incline your ear and hear the words of the wise, and apply your heart” to knowledge…”
And, young ladies, remember to turn to your mother and other godly women for wisdom. Don’t elevate the words of your peers above the good counsel God gives you through your parents. Honor your mother and father, and obey the authorities in your life. Remember, Scripture calls you to “obey those who rule over you, and be submissive, for they watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you (Hebrews 13:17).
Your parents and elders are in your life for a reason. When you resist godly counsel, not only do you bring grief to those who are charged with your teaching and care, but you literally shoot yourself in the foot. It’s not profitable for you; you move backward and not forward (Jer. 7:24).
Call to Action
How about you? Have you been faithful? If not, are you ready to repent and get busy obeying God by teaching and living out His Word! Are you willing?
Over the next few weeks, we will explore the seven things older women are instructed to teach younger women, even as we seek to apply them to our own lives!
“Denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly…” Titus 2:12
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