February 10, 2012 by Stacy McDonald
Throughout history there have been tyrants who have abused their authority and ignored their duty to selflessly guide those under their charge. Likewise, there are husbands who ignore or abuse their call to sacrificially lead their wives and children. A tyrant abuses his position of authority to oppress and use, rather than to protect and build up. Partly because of this sinful twisting of God’s call, feminists have been given a credible voice.
The fact is that God doesn’t love men more than he loves women; He doesn’t think “guy traits” are cooler than “girl traits”; He made them both. Certainly, men and women are equally intelligent, valuable, and competent. While creating them remarkably similar in their humanity, He simultaneously created them marvelously and distinctly different. By blurring the uniqueness of the sexes, we’ve emasculated men, devalued and endangered women, and lost the dramatic beauty that is meant to be ours.
Femininity and masculinity refer to our complementary differences. Femininity is a God-given trait; feminism is a political statement. The idea that men and women are equal in value and intelligence, and that women should be free to become “all they were created to be” is not called feminism; it is called Christianity.
As we’ve discussed, Satan, the Father of Lies, deceives by twisting the truth and offering a counterfeit. Deception is simply a lie sweetly powdered with flakes of truth to make it seem deliciously “right.” When properly packaged, the sweetened lie begins to “make sense” and the subtle, slow poisoning begins.
Yet, the problems we Christians are facing in our families aren’t caused by the wickedness of our leaders, or even the danger and perversity of our reckless lifestyle choices; it’s the other way around. The problems we face are simply symptoms of our stained sheets—our unfaithfulness to God and to each other.
When Christians reject the truth and embrace Satan’s cancerous imitation, we must expect to suffer from his diseases—miserable marriages, adultery, impotence, perversion, sexual addiction, and finally divorce. As a result, rather than godly seed, we have broken children and a crumbling society with nothing to look up to.
“Come out of her, my people, lest you share in her sins, and lest you receive of her plagues.” (Revelation 18:4)
But there is hope! Through Christ’s redeeming power, Christians are free to reject the ways of the world (1 John 2:16). As Christians, we are free to say with Paul, “We have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles—when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries.” (1 Peter 4:3)
Enough is enough. Let us confess our sin, and watch in awe as He cleanses and heals us with His own precious blood. As we repent of our idolatry, and our selfish and carnal attitude toward marriage, and turn to Jesus, we will find grace and mercy. We will discover that the heavenly scent of clean, white sheets and the satisfying joy of purity and oneness in marriage is what He intended to be ours all along.
Only then will we see our children and our children’s children growing strong, healthy, and mighty in spirit carrying on the legacy that has been given to us. Only then will we be equipped to offer answers to the masses of lonely and empty souls desperate for something better—something real, clean, and lasting.
“Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you shall be clean; I will cleanse you from all your filthiness and from all your idols.” (Ezekiel 36:25)
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
Brothers and sisters, come, partake in the truth; share in the beauty that is ours in Christ as we glorify our King—our Beloved Groom. Embrace the good stuff! Reflect in your marriage a true and honest picture of Christ and His Bride—one that sways to the intricate music of the Holy Spirit. Glorify Him by helping to strengthen and protect the purity of the marriages in your midst, as well as your own. Learn how you, even if you are unmarried, can take part in recovering the honor of the marriage bed for the sake of the Kingdom. Christians must lead the way, so that marriage might indeed be honored among all.