June 30, 2011 by Stacy McDonald

Grace Widows: The Attack on Godly Seed (Part 3)

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Continued from Part 2, Grace Widows: A Scarlet Letter

“My people are bent on backsliding from Me. Though they call to the Most High, none at all exalt Him.” (Hosea 11:7)

This verse should get our attention. Those of us who call on the name of the Lord, are we faithful? Do we truly exalt him in word and deed? In the second chapter of Malachi, the Israelites weep and groan over the fact that God has rejected their offerings. God seems to be turning His back on His covenant people. When they arrogantly question why God would treat them in such a way, Malachi points out:

“Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.” (Malachi 2:14)

And it’s not only men who are unfaithful. Women are covenant breakers too. Proverbs instructs young men to embrace wisdom, which will deliver them “from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words, who forsakes the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God.” (Proverbs 2:16-17) emphasis mine

Covenant breaking is no small thing to God. It’s nothing new either. God Himself knows the excruciating pain and injustice of unfaithfulness:

“Surely, as a wife treacherously departs from her husband, so have you dealt treacherously with Me, O house of Israel,” says the Lord.” (Jeremiah 3:20)

We have been an unfaithful people. We need to understand that marriage is for life. “What God has joined together, let not man separate.” We need to take seriously our call to honor the marriage bed in all areas of life. The husband and wife are to be a beautiful picture of Christ and His Bride—indescribable oneness—the epitome of faithfulness, purity, and sacrificial love. Married or single, we are to support that by the way we live and think.

As the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you. (Isaiah 62:5)

However, instead of dealing with sin ahead of time by actively addressing the things that weaken and tear down, stone by stone, the beauty and strength of marriage, we tend to wait until there is a crisis. Adultery or divorce has already happened before we scramble to correct the problem. Important issues that affect marriage, and the sanctity of the marriage bed, are ignored, and in some cases, even accepted.

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4) emphasis mine

Because we have allowed so many things that dishonor marriage to become an accepted part of our culture, we shouldn’t be surprised at the results. The church should be using wisdom and consistency in dealing with the following topics that contribute to the breakdown, and ultimate dishonor, of marriage:

  • The cultural acceptance of (at least soft) pornography in movies and television.
  • The acceptance of partial public nudity, which either stirs or desensitizes men especially, and causes discontent and insecurity in women.
  • Promiscuity and cohabitation before marriage.
  • The acceptance (and in some churches, the promotion) of homosexual unions.
  • The rejection of children
  • The pressure to remove mothers from the home (which divides and stresses the family).
  • Easy divorce.

Our culture of unfaithfulness has caused the Church to react in panic. Rather than deal with the most common sins of marriage biblically before the finality of divorce, we react by inventing rules that serve only to further limit the continuance of godly seed.

Satan hates godly seed. If he can’t kill our children, or succeed in making sure they’re never born, then he wants to damage them, so they aren’t useful to the Kingdom. That’s really what he’s after. Satan seeks to destroy what God seeks to produce. And what does God seek? What is His ultimate purpose for godly marriage as a whole? Why did He make them “one flesh?” This is important, so pay attention. Notice in Malachi 2 what God seeks (therefore Satan hates):

But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring… (emphasis mine)

And notice how the rest of the verse plays out. What could it be that might harm the godly seed He seeks?

Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. (Malachi 2:15)

This is one reason why God hates divorce. It’s why He detests unfaithfulness. It’s why adultery, fornication, and the rejection of life in the womb is so very wicked.

Yet, after the treacherous one has forsaken his wife, how can we, the Church, make it worse? By creating a virtual monastery for those whose lives have already been ravaged. This is not only wrong on a personal level, it is wrong in light of Malachi 2:15. It is an additional attack on godly seed. It violates the whole purpose for marriage. It attacks the children left in the home, as well as the children that the forsaken wife may still produce within a future godly marriage.

Then they [The Roman Catholic Church] enacted laws by which they confirmed their tyranny—laws partly impious toward God, partly fraught with injustice toward men…they frame degrees of kindred contrary to the laws of all nations, and even the polity of Moses, and enact that a husband who has repudiated an adulteress may not marry again.” – John Calvin

To protect the purity of the marriage bed, for the sake of loving the brethren and defending true doctrine, and for sake of the continuance of godly seed, we need to understand when divorce is biblically justified. Christians must present a sound and biblical picture of marriage—a picture that doesn’t leave anyone abandoned or in bondage—one that glorifies God and provides hope for future generations.

To be continued in Part 4: Grace Widows: Binding the Broken

Covenant Breakers

“My people are bent on backsliding from Me. Though they call to the Most High, none at all exalt Him.” (Hosea 11:7)

This verse should get our attention. Do we exalt God by the way we live our lives? In the second chapter of Malachi, the Israelites weep and groan over the fact that God has rejected their offerings. God seems to be turning His back on His covenant people. When they arrogantly question why God would treat them in such a way, Malachi points out:

“Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.” (Malachi 2:14)

And it’s not only men who are unfaithful. Women are covenant breakers too. Proverbs instructs young men to embrace wisdom, which will deliver them “from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words,who forsakes the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God.” (Proverbs 2:16-17) emphasis mine

Covenant breaking is no small thing to God. It’s nothing new either. God Himself knows the excruciating pain and injustice of unfaithfulness.

“Surely, as a wife treacherously departs from her husband, so have you dealt treacherously with Me, O house of Israel,” says the Lord.” (Jeremiah 3:20)

We have been an unfaithful people. We need to understand that marriage is for life. “What God has joined together, let not man separate.” We need to take seriously our call to honor the marriage bed in all areas of life. The husband and wife are to be a beautiful picture of Christ and His Bride—indescribable oneness—the epitome of faithfulness, purity, and sacrificial love. Married or single, we are to support that by the way we live and think.

As the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you. (Isaiah 62:5)

However, instead of dealing with sin ahead of time by actively addressing the things that weaken and tear down, stone by stone, the beauty and strength of marriage, we tend to wait until there is a crisis. Adultery or divorce has already happened before we scramble to correct the problem. Important issues that affect marriage, and the sanctity of the marriage bed, are ignored, and in some cases, even accepted.

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4) emphasis mine

Because we have allowed so many thing that dishonor marriage to become an accepted part of our culture, we shouldn’t be surprised at the results. The church should be using wisdom and consistency in dealing with the following topics that contribute to the breakdown, and ultimate dishonor, of marriage:

  • The cultural acceptance of (at least soft) pornography in movies and television.
  • The acceptance of partial public nudity, which either stirs or desensitizes men especially, and causes discontent and insecurity in women.
  • Promiscuity and cohabitation before marriage.
  • The acceptance (and in some churches, the promotion) of homosexual unions.
  • The pressure to remove mothers from the home (which divides and stresses the family).
  • Easy divorce.

Our culture of unfaithfulness has caused the Church to react in panic. Rather than deal with the most common sins of marriage biblically before the finality of divorce, we react by inventing rules that serve only to further limit the continuance of godly seed.

Satan hates godly seed. If he can’t kill our children, or make sure they’re never born, then he wants to damage them, so they aren’t useful to the Kingdom. That’s really what he’s after. Satan seeks to destroy what God seeks to produce. And what does God seek? What is His ultimate purpose for godly marriage as a whole? Why did He make them “one flesh?”

But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.

And notice how the rest of the verse plays out. What could it be that might harm the godly seed He seeks?

“Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. (Malachi 2:15)

This is why God hates divorce. It’s why He detests unfaithfulness. It’s why adultery, fornication, and the rejection of life in the womb is so wicked.

Yet, after the one who has dealt treacherously with the wife of his youth has done his deed, how can we, the Church, make it worse? By creating a virtual monastery for those whose lives have already be ravaged. This is not only wrong on a personal level, it is wrong in light of Malachi 2:15. It is an additional attack on godly seed. It violates the whole purpose for marriage. It attacks the children left in the home, as well as the children that the forsaken wife may still produce within a future godly marriage.

To protect the purity of the marriage bed, for the sake of loving the brethren and defending true doctrine, and for sake of the continuance of godly seed, we need to understand when divorce is biblically justified. Christians must present a sound and biblical picture of marriage—a picture that doesn’t leave anyone abandoned or in bondage—one that glorifies God and provides hope for future generations.



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5 Responses to “Grace Widows: The Attack on Godly Seed (Part 3)”

  1. Ruth says:

    Excellent series, Stacy!
    I recently read an author who likened these women (abandoned wives) as modern day widows. These children, left fatherless by “boys” who claim to be men, need godly men as examples in their homes. These young women, still able to have children, need godly husbands.
    Yes, God, and we, should hate divorce. But when divorce does occur, the body of Christ must be prepared with answers. Personally, I believe there may be men called to adopt these little ones and rise up as TRUE , REAL men to repair these broken homes! Amen to all you have written! ~ Ruth

  2. Stacy McDonald says:

    That’s exactly it, Ruth. They are widows – “Grace Widows” (you can read more about that in Part 2).

    You are right – the Body of Christ needs to be prepared to respond biblically.

  3. Alexia says:

    I thank God every day that my husband is willing and able to raise my son to be a man of God.

    where would my son be now if it weren’t for God sending my husband along?? probably headed down a very hard road.

  4. Great thoughts! I agree whole-heartidly!

    I just sat and read your other entries on the topic to my husband. We are thankful for your wisdom and that many women are reading this and finding out the truth! I know recently I have studied this topic yet again as some reformed speakers were even coming out saying that there should never be a case for divorce.

    Thank you! I now feel like I should write out our story to show God’s glory and power in our lives! I pray constantly that God would bless our home with more children.

  5. Julie says:

    Thank you Stacey . My mother-in-law was married at 16 in the 1960’s . Her husband would use their marriage as an excuse not to marry other women. He eventually went to another state and married another woman. Because of this, Connie was awarded a free divorce.

    In this first marriage, she has one daughter. She eventually remarried my father- in law. They began to live for the Lord. My husband and his brother were born in this union. My father in law felt called into the ministry. They suffered greatly when it was found out she had a previous marriage. Pastor Bill was abruptly asked to clean out his desk at a christian school he was teaching at, and had been involved with for years . The board found out about his wife’s previous marriage ( which she was abandoned in). Also, church nearly split over him being the pastor. This happened mostly in baptist circles . My mother who attends a charismatic assembly of God recently told us there is a divorced Sunday school at her church…. REALLY???? These people are I guess being kept away from the rest of the other Sunday schoolers to keep from polluting them. Thank you Stacy

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