March 3, 2011 by Stacy McDonald
Author, Reiko Rizzuto, left her family, her husband and two small children, to study in Japan. While she was away, she decided she didn’t want to be married any longer, and began to also question her desire to be a mother.
Watch this heartbreaking testimony – the epitome of a self absorbed life…
Notice how Argie Allen, Director of Clinical Training from Drexel University, sat and affirmed Ms. Rizzuto’s decision, while the wayward mother nodded in thankful agreement.
I did agree with psychiatrist Gail Saltz when she said that “both parents” should be present and emotionally involved with their children. However, the way Ms. Rizzuto wants to redefine motherhood (and parenting in general) would destroy the security, love, and confidence that every child needs to thrive – it unravels the very fiber of family and leaves children (and parents) emotionally sick and vulnerable.
The following quote from Ms. Rizzuto represents the primary problem with her life (Galatians 2:20). However, we should all examine her words and ask God to show us areas where this attitude may be harming our own effectiveness as wives and mothers.
When asked if things would have been different had she stayed with her family, Ms. Rizzuto said:
I think I was very caught up in the life I was in, and I might not have looked up and it might have taken me many years to say, ‘Whoa – I did that thing that I didn’t want to do , which was give up my life…for someone else.’ – Reiko Rizzuto (emphasis mine)
The Outworking of Love
“By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.” (1 John 3:16–18)
One thing we all need to remember is that we are EACH capable of exactly what this woman did. It is only by God’s Grace that he has inclined our hearts to home.
This woman has been deceived by her own sin and by a culture (and a weakened Church) that fails to call selfishness sin. We should take it as a warning, not as an opportunity to say, “Thank you that I am not like…” I must remember my own propensity to live selfishly, and to put myself before others.
9 Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others:
10 “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector.
11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector.
12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’
13 And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’
14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” (Luke 18:9–14)