September 24, 2010 by Stacy McDonald
Train up a child in the way of a…prostitute?
I am heartbroken for the little girls out there who are not only unprotected, but exploited – even by their own parents.
I was absolutely apalled today when I read the following article, which included a video of 7-year-old girls at a dance competition! They were dancing to bump and grind music, in red and black stripper bikinis, gyrating for the crowd:
“The signs are all there: The hip-grinding come-ons. Legs kicked up to the ear. Skin-baring lingerie. This particular video remake of Beyoncé’s hit “Single Ladies” follows a rubric of raunchy moves straight out of the pole-dance manual. But the performers, according to published reports, are 7-year-olds.”
CLICK HERE to read the whole article.
And this isn’t an isolated incident. When I was a kid I took baton lessons at the local rec. center. My sister took ballet and gymnastics. They offered a lot of different classes; but, I don’t recall any pole dancing classes. I guess I was born too early for all the fun.
Tantra Fitness, a dance studio in Canada, offers pole dancing classes to kids and is even debating a mommy and me class.
And, last year, 16-year-old Disney star, Miley Cyrus, proved quite the role model, demonstrating her pole dancing skills at the Teen Choice Awards.
Pole Dancing Classes for little girls.
Hug your children tight tonight. And pray for all the little girls out there whose parents don’t seem to know any better.
“And they built the high places of Baal which are in the Valley of the Son of Hinnom, to cause their sons and their daughters to pass through the fire to Molech, which I did not command them, nor did it come into My mind that they should do this abomination, to cause Judah to sin.’” (Jeremiah 32:35, NKJV)
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Yikes, Stacy!
I took all the gymnastics and dance classes when I was a little girl, too, and there certainly were not any poll dances! Poor girls! And we wonder why we have problems with child porn and molestation in our society! God help us!
Yes, I saw that original article about the 7-year-olds a little while ago. So sad! It was amazing how the parents were upset that other people thought their daughters were doing anything risque. Completely inappropriate! It always breaks my heart to see these little girls dressed like the loose teens of today. I remember seeing one little girl (maybe 6-8 years old?) who was out with her daddy at a restaurant. She was wearing shorts that covered almost nothing. And, of course, being the little girl that she was, she was jumping around, holding onto her daddy’s hand and playing around. With all of the jumping, her shorts really didn’t cover anything. Everything inside of me wanted to go up and ask that father if he realized how his daughter was dressed, and encourage him to protect her from it. Of course, I didn’t. But I wanted to.
I am just appalled Stacy! Saddened yes.
I had a friend just today, who was just shocked when an xray tech had asked her if her 12 yr old daughter was pregnant.Apparently they are having to ask now because they are having an increase in girls as young as 11 & 12 who are indeed pregnant.It is things like this,these stripper classes for little girls and the parents who sign them up for them,that unleashes all sort of problems that we are facing and then the same parents who are mortified when their daughters have been raped or molested or murdered.We need to pray,you are right. :(
ugh… How absolutely heartbreaking… When parents allow this type of behavior and dress they are exposing their children to incredible danger, not only from how they will grow up viewing themselves but also as to how others view them.
It breaks my heart when people in the name of “freedom” dress themselves or their children in a way that in turn makes others (men) view them as objects, this type of behavior puts ALL women at risk for abuse & rape because of the careless flaunting and objectifying of the female body, which in turn warps the mind of sinful man into believing it.
It is the heart that matters, it tears me to bits to see how people view women as objects, women complain about it but then in turn dress like objects. Why can’t they see it??
Oh yes, this is indeed happening all over the place and it sickens me and breaks my heart in a million pieces. I have very strong convictions about this and won’t mince my words.
These girls are being robbed of their innocence and purity from the very depths of their souls and their parents are to blame. There is absolutely no excuse for this. And, they are being taught that sex sells, and we both know where that can lead to.
And…does anyone think about their safety? Sexual predators are out there just looking for stuff like this.
I could go on and on, but my final point will be this. There are people out there who call us “prude”, “narrow-minded”, “controlling” and so much more. They just don’t get it, and refuse to face the truth. This is not innocent child’s play or ballet or baton twirling.
Thank you for exposing this…parents trafficking their own children.
Lord, please do a work in these parents’ hearts.
Very sad, Stacy.
This is why I keep feeling the need to write to men on the topic of protecting their daughters. My last post was on providing our daughters with a safe place to live and grow throughout their formative years and beyond, and learning to pole dance, and bump and grind isn’t part of that plan.
Thanks for sharing!
I remember seeing that video for the first time. It took me a while to get my jaw up off the floor. Those parents received a lot of criticism for what they allowed their little girls to do… and then the parents blamed the public , calling us perverted for thinking of their daughters in that way. WHAT? I’m the pervert for thinking their daughters look like hookers? Messed. Up.
I am outraged…. i am 24 and i pray that god will bless me with marriage and family and i heard about this and i cant not beleive parents think this is okay.. I seen the video a while ago and i was truly upset.. My mother would never allow that!! its shows just how bad our world is lost and how bad our sacred womanhood is lost!
I think it is interesting that feminists used to decry the objectifying of women and girls.
Now women objectify themselves…and get angry if you mention that. They would say “it’s their choice,” so it’s ok. The discussion on the video by the tv hosts were that the women were all appalled because they were young girls, but thought it ok for Beyonce’ to have done this very thing because “she’s a 20 something year old woman.” When the man was asked for his opinion he said “it doesn’t seem all that different than cheerleading.”
sigh…..
What I thought was interesting was The Early Show’s show’s response- the man mentioned he thought it was unacceptable but so was the original singer’s video. The women completely disagreed & couldn’t see why it was wrong for “a grown woman.” This shows you the extent of the sinfulness of culture- a culture that is in love with an undgodly view of sex. It started with views about adults and has trickled down to views concerning children.
As a public school teacher, you would think that I have seen and heard it all. However, last week at late night conferences I met with the parent of one of my little girls. The mother was discussing the differences in her two daughters. The older is in third grade, and I teach the second grader. Her words were, “She just oozes sexiness!” I could believe that a parent would say that or even encourage it. This child comes to school in short-shorts, highheel sandals, and backless dresses. To imagine that at seven years old this child is encouraged to be sexy is unimaginable. Working in the public school has made my husband and I more determined than ever to homeschool and protect my own children who are three and five months.
May it not surprise us when sinners sin.
Father God, please bring salvation to these parents and these precious children.
Stacy, so sad and I agree with Steve. Where are the men (fathers or brothers) that should be protecting these little girls. I have a sixteen year old daughter who epitomizes modesty, not only in her dress, but in her actions as well. We have raised our son to honor and value that attitude in females of his acquaintance. Clearly he has taken this lesson to heart as he once asked his sister if her shorts were not just getting a little short. (She is very thin and long-legged and we were pulling weeds in our own backyard). She did the obligatory hands-to-the-sides test and they were just slightly even with her finger-tips. Modest by todays standards, but our son asked, “would you be comfortable in them if daddy where here?” She ran back up-stairs to change and the shorts went into the donate bin. She valued her brother’s good opinion of her and he felt protective enough of her to remind her of our familie’s committment to modesty. Am so grateful for those like you who continue to reminds us of the Way. Continuing to raise a Young Maiden of Virtue.
Prostitution is having sex for money, dancing on a pole is dancing on a pole, my daughter grabs and swings and dances on every poles shes ever seen and has no idea what a stripper is. and you overly religious women wonder why your husbands are at strip clubs, using prostitutes and having mistresses. lighten up its only as much as a sin as you make it and maybe you should seek help for the thoughts you have when seeing a child on a pole. sex for money is what you came up with Shame on you!!!!!
your children as well as your husbands have my sympathy
Greg, The name of the dance class was Promiscuous Girls. A girl can be trained in one of two ways: in harlotry or godliness. A harlot is an unprincipled or immoral woman. I sincerely doubt that any of the women posting here are “overly religious.” Prostitution is legal in Canada, and such a dance class is literally training a girl in the ways of prostitution. It’s that simple. Likewise, a “pop star” like Beyonce who looks and acts like a prostitute and receives money for her entertainment is in reality a harlot. Sin is sin no matter how our society might like to sugar coat it or call it art or entertainment. Furthermore, I doubt that the husbands and children of the women reading and posting here need your sympathy. The husbands and children of America’s godly women are truly blessed.
You know Greg, as Stacy’s husband and the father of our seven daughters, I find your note troubling. As Christians we are commanded to bring up our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. They are to be brought up in righteousness – being able to discern between what is godly and what is not.
Greg – these are not just little girls playing ring around the rosie – they are being trained to be sultry tramps, to be objects and playthings for men rather than to be women of strength and virtue.
Is adultery only sin if you make it out to be sin? Your comment reflects the warped worldview of relativism that is destroying our culture.
If you are a father who allows your daughter to participate in such activities, all I can say is “shame on you.” I pray you consider who your daughter will be when she is 27. If you are training her up to be loose, without the intervention of Jesus, that is what she will be.
Oh my! I just skimmed some of the comments and almost missed the last one. None so blind… *sigh*
I always think back to JonBenet Ramsey. If you dress an innocent child like a stripper and teach her to dance like a stripper, you are impressing upon her a mindset. And setting her up like a sitting duck for predators.
This post is timely for me, as well, as I just started writing a song about this topic. No, I am not a writer; I just enjoy dabbling. 8-}
Have a JESUS-filled day! ^i^
What happened to just letting girls be girls? It’s heartbreaking to see girls thrust into womanhood when they are clearly still girls. As parents, our job is to nurture and protect our little ones, not open the door to let in the foxes.
Greg – as a mother of two daughters, I agree that given the chance to dance, they will. They ring around poles at the play gym. But in their dancing there is an innocence. They are spinning around in a childlike manner, NOT dancing up against the pole in a seductive way. BIG DIFFERENCE.
I just got a chance to read the article and listen to the show hosts’ comments. I think it’s very sad, as well, that the women on the show disagreed when the man said that he found Beyonce’s video disturbing, as well. ‘But she’s an adult’… as if that is acceptable. He was right about the cheerleader comparison, as well. Apparently, too many ‘liberated’ women have lost their sense of propriety. And far too many mothers are vicariously living their own fantasies through their daughters. Definitely exploitation.
Shocking, sad, appalling … but not surprising. What did we think would happen when our culture promoted the sexualization of adult women and teenage girls? We have no boundaries to define appropriate behavior. Whatever’s the most shocking is often what folks consider to be “cutting edge” and worthy of celebration.
To Greg (and anyone else who would find such behavior acceptable): Even if you *want* to separate what’s going on in the video with outright prostitution, you’re still ignoring the zillions of studies which demonstrate that women involved in “pole dancing” are being exploited. There is nothing in such practices that any person would want his or her daughters to emulate. The lifestyle is completely unhealthy – not to mention the fact that such a picture of sexuality runs totally counter to what we see in Scripture.
We need a better vision for daughters than what the world offers. Thankfully, we have answers in Scripture.
Blessings,
Luci
Stacy,
This is my first comment ever on someone’s blog. I have always just enjoyed reading anything that you right. However, this particular post disturbed me more than I can put into words. The fact that people are so blind as to allow their children to be viewed as sexually objects is deplorable. I agree with Steve, where are the fathers? I know my husband would die if he ever saw our daughter swinging on a pole. It’s not for fun, this is not “exercise”… Playing with dolls and running around playing tag is fun..I always find it funny when parents ask, “why do they grow up so fast?” YOU are the reason! Society is the reason. Post’s like this just make me realize how important our work is at home.
Mommy and me pole dancing?!?! What?!
Even so, come, Lord Jesus!
Stacy
Thank you for being a sane Christian voice , in a time of total confusion. I grew up ion the Church, but of the world. I took dance classes for 4 years and loved the excercise etc. God convicted to pull our daughter out of her dance studio, halfway through the year, when I saw pictures of what my little 5 year old was going to wear. (A bikini with see through arms and legs) Her class was going to do Aladdin. No way Jose! What was even more repulsive was the outfits that the 5th graders were going to wear. These parents were going to have their 11-12 year olds in thigh high boots with skin tight postitute attire.
What is even more astounding is that Christians are letting their kids do this. Are we so descensitized to porn and immorality that we can’t see it when it’s staring us in the face? If we train them in the way of the immoral woman why are we surprised when the act on that at 15? Lord help us to discern good from evil and not be afraid to stand against the tide.
I am absolutely sickened by this, but not surprised. In fact, my newest sister-in-law by marriage had pole dancing lessons as part of her “hen night,” (the raunchy UK version of a bridal shower), and no one thought anything of it. Except me. Needless to say, I did not attend. As well, there are people in this little village of 18oo people in the middle of nowhere who actually have poles in their living rooms so they can “exercise” while pole dancing. The depravity is mind-boggling. I am so saddened my this. Thank you for continuing to deal with the hard issues.
I find it ironic that Greg makes wild accusations of infidelity against husbands he doesn’t even know while at the same time combing the web reading blogs written by a woman for women. His post also seems to suggest that if a husband strays it is the wife’s fault. If that is what he believes then I think it is his spouse that needs sympathy and not any of ours.
Victoria
Greg,
Your comments are of a man firmly grounded in mid-air. All of your assumptions are dead wrong, and as a man, married to one of those “overly religious woman,” (which simply means they love Jesus Christ,) I can assure you that I don’t frequent strip clubs, use prostitutes, and have mistresses, as you stated.
Prostitution may be money for sex, as you say, but allowing your daughters to dance seductively on a pole is child abuse, child exploitation, and child sacrifice, as far as I’m concerned. What message is your daughter sending to men when she does this? What is enticed in a man when they see this? What identity is being formed in your daughter when she learns this?
Answer those questions honestly, and if you still think it’s appropriate, whether you’re a Christian or not, at least we’ll know the depth of your morality, or lack thereof.
You state: “lighten up its only as much as a sin as you make it” Really? We didn’t make sex outside of marriage a sin, God did.
Greg, the most disturbing thing to me in your entire post is how you try to deflect the sin and trashy minds here to the people who object to this! How dare you try to put shame on concerned parents and horrified adults. Your views are relativistic at best and incredibly insulting even without the bogus guilt trip (suggesting that it’s a faithful wife’s fault if her husband’s promiscious).
Ik have a question for Greg,
If you don’t want your daughter to sell herself for money, why then do you allow her to (learn how to) advertise?
This is simply terrible. Poor girls!
Wow. I’m just about as disgusted as I was when I saw that Miley Cyrus’ little sister was putting out a line of promiscuous clothing for children. I’ve never posted here before, but I have read many of your articles. This is an issue that I am constantly appalled with and feel very strongly about. I am a sixth grade teacher and so work with 11 and 12 year olds everyday, and it both breaks my heart and disgusts me to see the influences that young girls have nowadays – with these influences being seemingly NORMAL. I do my best to be a role model for the girls at work, but I’m only one person and with these other influences being thrown at them from every outlet possible, it’s like fighting a one-woman battle!)
(And to respond to Gregg, I am not an “overly-religious woman” and I find this disgusting. In fact, I’m actually not particularly religious at all – but you don’t have to be of a specific faith to have a desire for children to be children, and to be brought up to be respectable, modest young ladies and gentlemen. Children need to experience the world, yes, but there are certain things that their eyes should be protected from for as long as humanly possible. And this is VERY, very different from swinging around a pole on the street.)
Absolutely disgusting…. Reposted. Thank you so much for sharing this. I had NO IDEA!