November 14, 2009 by Stacy McDonald
This morning, one of my readers left a comment that I found encouraging and wanted to pass it on. What a good reminder to us women that what we’re doing in our homes for our husbands and children really does make a difference. Thanks for sharing, Christy!
“I can honestly attest to the reference of a man’s need to see his wife, not on the train at the end of a hard day’s “business” work for both of them; but, rather, a man’s desire is to see his wife in the sanctuary of his home, making the sun shine on his piece of earth.
My husband and I worked and toiled in the “business world” together (and apart) for nearly 11 years before our first son. I then came home on a “part-time/work from home” basis for just over a year. I have now been in my home, in my true calling, as wife and mother for 1.5 years, and we are now expecting our 3rd baby (in under 3 years)…what changes!
While my husband doesn’t always come home to “peace and tranquility” (in a home filling up with toddlers)–he does come home to me–earnestly engrossed in his home and kingdom. He told me the other night that this is the happiest and most satisfied that he has been in nearly 14 years of marriage. (And we have had an idyllic marriage, in both our estimations.) What a tremendous blessing to my heart, and our home!!
In even further confirmation of the perfect will of God in our lives as believers, my brother-in-law (my sister’s husband) commented to my husband that he wants his wife to be a stay-at-home wife and mother. He noted that he sees the confidence and peace in my husband, and as a new believer, he wants that kind of joy in his home…which, in great part, is due to committing our home in the hands of God and discovering His desires in our roles, as husband, wife and parents.
I lied to myself and others for a very long time…I really believed that I “could have it all”. The problem with “having it all” is that NONE of it is ever done to the best of our ability, or in God’s perfect will. Something will always suffer. Working women/mothers may not “fail” in their tasks, but they will never know the true satisfaction of a wholly committed relationship with their husbands and children. (I couldn’t, my attentions were always split between my responsibilities…this is the nature of being human.)
I thank God for His grace in placing me (reluctantly, at first), in His true calling for my life. I am reminded each day that this is the most satisfying, and sanctifying, work that I will ever do.
Thank you, Mrs. McDonald, for your book (Passionate Housewives…). That book hit me in the heart with the most powerful message known to man…the Word of God. Since I read that book 2.5 years ago, we (my husband and I) have called this season of our lives, the “Transformation”. We count it a blessing to have brothers and sisters in the faith (that we may not meet here on earth), that are real in their encouragement to press closer to the One and Only, the Great I AM.”