January 26, 2008 by Stacy McDonald
When Are Anonymous Comments Allowed?
I no longer allow anonymous comments on my blog, except upon request (as well as in the “Intimacy” thread exception described below). If you want to share your words of wisdom, you’ll have to own them. However, if you have a good reason for needing to remain anonymous, you can email me and let me know, in which case I will still ask that you use some sort of anonymous “name” to avoid confusion.
I also ask that my guests use the same sort of manners here on my blog that they would use if they were visiting my home and we were all discussing these matters face to face. Frank, honest, and even passionate discourse is welcome, but please use the words of a wise man and season all your words with grace and love, one to another. Repeat your words out loud in the mirror and see if you would speak to a sister in Christ face-to-face the way you have written. Too many times, the mask of anonymity encourages unbridled speech; and eventually foolish lips unleash wagging tongues that cause all sorts of mischief.
Ecclesiastes 10:12-13: The words of a wise man’s mouth are gracious, But the lips of a fool shall swallow him up; the words of his mouth begin with foolishness, and the end of his talk is raving madness.
As referenced earlier, due to the delicate and private nature of the topic I am allowing gracious anonymous comments on the “Intimacy” thread; but, I still ask that commenters sign their comments with some sort of “name” as to avoid confusion.
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Isn’t it too bad that these sorts of ground rules are needed? I’ve often wondered if the person who drives so recklessly around me could actually be the same person who is so gracious to me, in person, at the post office for example.
There is great restraint in meeting “eye to eye” but between vehicles and keyboards, the words fly. It is but one of many reasons I do not allow comments at all on my blog.
I’m sorry you’ve had trouble in dealing with comments. I hope you’ll continue to share your heart and that with these guidelines, your blog will be that much more pleasant for you.
Blessings,
Keri
P.S. Please do update about your friend we all prayed for.
Well Kerimae, perhaps some wish to remain anonymous so they can avoid being attacked. It does happen, you know.
“Well Kerimae, perhaps some wish to remain anonymous so they can avoid being attacked. It does happen, you know.”
Not on this blog, Jennifer. :-)
Hi Kerimae,
I updated the prayer request post to include the latest from the Davis’s blog. Thank you so much for praying for them. Basically, he is still in the (medically induced) coma to keep him from being restless (yes, even while unconscious), wich lowers his oxygen saturation.
The doctors really need wisdom because they are truly baffled by this.
He has an EEG scheduled tomorrow – please pray there is no brain damage – and that God would give his wife (and entire family) peace in the midst of all the testing and trials.
They will being a bunch of tests to check out various
Thank you Stacy, I’ll keep that in mind :)
Stacy,
I was so sad when you weren’t allowing comments any longer, but now I realize why you did it. Then, you opened it back up and now this! Wow! It wears me out to read them all, I can’t imagine what it must feel like to respond to them all!
I appreciate your discussion on intimacy. However, it does seem that the comments have been dominated by one or two people who it doesn’t even appear are married. I would rather hear your biblical wisdom on the issue, or from other women who have been married for a long time. That’s why the Bible says we should learn from older women, because they are wiser, right?
Thank you for your blog, it is a blessing to me! I pray for you and your precious family often!
Jennifer :-) (married for 14 years)
jordanfamilyhappenings.blogspot.com
I have always allowed anonymous comments on my blog, but have been reconsidering that policy. Thanks for addressing it here. It gives me more to consider as I decide which way to go. It seems as more people begin to read, I’m seeing more anonymous commenters. Thanks again.
I would rather hear your biblical wisdom on the issue, or from other women who have been married for a long time. That’s why the Bible says we should learn from older women, because they are wiser, right?
I certainly agree with Jennifer Jordan in wanting input from Stacy and other godly women, but it isn’t simply a matter of age or length of marriage. I have come across many women who are older than Stacy but not as wise. (I can probably put myself in that category.) No matter the age of the woman we should test her words against Scripture and even our own experience. If, for example, we see someone disregarding Scripture or twisting its meaning by redefining its words, it doesn’t matter how old she is. In contrast, I’ve seen comments on this blog from women who are younger than I am that have blessed and taught me. I still have much to learn and expect that to remain that way no matter how long I live. I suspect that our growth as Christians is more significant than our physical ages. It wouldn’t surprise me if Stacy’s teenage daughters were wiser than certain feminists that I’ve encountered in their 50s and 60s.