Do you ever feel like you’re saying something perfectly logical and reasonable and yet the person who is listening to you, must hear you in a different language? That’s what seems to have happened to me. Since the facts are sound, it must be my lack of clear communication.
This is a portion of a comment I received from “Anonymous” (of course) regarding our plan to raise our daughters to be “maidens of virtue.” I could not include the whole post because it would not have been appropriate reading for all – if you get my drift.
Why do some people continue to insist that women who stay home to serve their families and raise their children must be terrified, uneducated slaves who just do it because they’re afraid of what their husbands or fathers will do to them? I’m slow, but I think I’m getting it.
When a picture of gentle, joyful giving of one’s self is presented, they see anguished, bitter slavery. Again, it’s the language thing, I’m sure. We’re describing someone who is freely “giving” of herself – her service (a Christian woman) to her family. The non-Christian and the feminist can’t fathom that anyone would do this freely, so she pictures someone in bondage – whose services are taken/stolen under the threat of beatings or death (that is slavery).
You see, there
are women in this position. But, what they haven’t figured out is that our description of a male-led household is very, very different than theirs. You can read this
Letter from a 17-year-old Feminist and see a true picture of what our life looks like. I wonder if this is where the miscommunication is. Anonymous said:
You are wanting to make a US “Taliban”. When will you stop? Women are dying in other countries for the very thing that you want to bring here. Women staying home, never leaving the house, never being educated, scared for their own lives for what their husbands and father’s will do to them. I have read your books, and this is the path that you are leading others to walk. You want women to be slaves, with no rights, no liberties, no freedoms. – Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Women are not dying because they have a godly desire to joyfully serve their families, they are dying because of sin. There are men who are sinful tyrants, just as there are women who are sinful rebels. Now that I think about it, there are also women who are tyrants (I think my high school gym coach qualifies) and men who are rebels.
No one is advocating for any woman to “never” leave her house or to cower in doormat- style servitude to a tyrant. Go back and read the posts here and I’ll pray God opens your eyes to read what is actually written.
Also, we happen to believe that women should be highly educated, well-spoken, well-read, well-equipped for every good work, strong,
SERVANTS of the Most High God. Which means a woman will not be focused on waving her “rights” in the air; she will instead exercise her
freedom and her
liberty to live a godly life truly serving others. True service to our God seeks nothing in return. Those who are bound in the chains of sin, do not have that freedom or that liberty – or that desire.
Study your history and you will see that the influence of Christianity has increased woman’s value and elevated the level of her protection by men.
Since you shared with me that you are not a Christian, I pray Christ will break your chains of sin and bondage soon so that you too will be free to serve others – in joy and contented womanhood, not in bitter, servile bondage. That is, if you are a woman. You didn’t leave an email address so that I could ask.
If I’m still not getting it, please feel free to explain your position further. However, keep your words free of offensive language, so that I don’t have to moderate your post. Blessings.
By His Grace,
Stacy McDonald
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Dear Stacy,
You should ask “Anonymous” what her concerns are about the views you hold.
Take care and God bless!
Someone who is not a born-again Christian and believer in the Word of God, is never going to understand that the whole of Christian walk is about self-denial and self-sacrifice. Jesus is our example. He was the epitome of sacrifice!
And obviously, just like anything, no matter what we say they won’t get it because they have not been enlightened by the Holy Spirit of God.
Sadly, for the most part what “robnt” stated above is true. In this case for people who accuse us of “holding our children back, hurting them, overprotecting, etc…” the only way they sometimes can have their eyes opened (without coming to love the Lord Jesus) is by our actions. This young girl does not know you or your beautiful, happy maidens. She does not see the loving interraction and service to one another that goes on in your home on a daily basis. She does not see what lovely young ladies your girls are becoming. “Actions speak lounder then words” is usually the case to win over the heart of a non-believer. I’m glad you responded to her letter. Let’s hope that one day her eyes are opened to the truth.